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Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Memories of Nannie



I lost my last grandparent yesterday. My Nannie died from pneumonia...but really she was just tired and ready to move on. She was 88. I have so many memories of her that they all get jumbled up in my mind sometimes. So, I'm going to attempt to get a few of them written down here so I don't forget them.

She was a teacher at the core of her being. She was always trying to teach someone something. It might have been how to do long division, how to crochet or how to properly make toast, but she was always teaching.

She loved Christmas. It was her favorite holiday by far, and she would plan and save all year to make christmas a huge celebration. She loved her Christmas tree and had to have it just so with lots of tinsel. Every year one of the presents she would give to me and my brother was a big box of junk food like candy bars and cookies. I would hide that box under my bed and eat from it all year.

She made the best macaroni and tomatoes, toast made under the oven broiler, chicken noodles, and canned pickles. My brother and I would eat breakfast at her house most Saturday mornings and she would make over easy eggs for me and cut them into tiny pieces.

She was a collector. For years she collected salt and pepper shakers and displayed in her living room. Later she collected photographs and had them covering every wall in her home. She also collected shot glasses, even though she never drank a drop.

She was a saver as well. She saved everything she thought someone might want or need later. When my daughter was born, Nannie pulled out a dress and a rattle that was mine when I was a baby. She had saved them for me.

She was an entrepreneur, and after she retired from teaching she opened up her own craft businesses. She had one called Betty's Knot shop. That was when I was pretty little, so I'm not sure what she sold, but I think it was macrame. After that she got interested in ceramics. She would pour her own slip into molds, then fire them in her own kiln and sell them unpainted or paint them herself to sell as finished products. I remember painting several pieces with her, and I remember playing with the leftover wet ceramic clay when she would be working on that part of the process. She took classes to learn new painting techniques and produced some beautiful pieces, but she never really thought they turned out well. She was her own worst critic when it came to her arts and crafts.

After the ceramics, she became interested in other crafts like crochet, cross stitch and plastic canvas. She taught me how to do most of that as well. I didn't retain a lot of that info, but I have retained a lot of the things she made for me and my kids.

She and Pa both loved traveling. When I was little they would take me with them on vacations to all parts of the US. I was too young to really remember them, but I have a few snippets of memories. Nannie would always pack lots of food for the road and we would make tiny cracker sandwiches in the backseat while Pa drove. She always sat back there with me instead of in the front seat. She collected magnets from every state she visited. I believe she has one from the 48 contiguous states.

I tried to get her and Pa to go to Hawaii with me once, but she was afraid to fly. She did finally get on an airplane when her first great-grandchild was born. She had to come see the baby.

She was very interested in family history, old photos and the family tree. A lot of her traveling was to meet with distant relatives. She and Pa attended a few family reunions every year for a while to visit with distant family.

She loved games! From as early as I can remember she was always pulling out the board games, card games, dominoes and the like for us to play after school or on Saturdays when we were at her house. We would play Concentration, Careers, Monopoly, Sorry, and a multitude of card games. At family reunions everyone would play various card games and dominoes. And the last time the kids and I came to visit we ended up playing dominoes as well. As it became harder for her to walk, even if she didn't really feel like walking to the table, she would come over to play a game.

She loved to read and loved to read to others. One of my favorite things as a kid was to have her read to me. I'd keep bringing the same books to her to read and she'd read them over and over. When I would visit her with my kids, she continued the cycle and would read to them. They loved it, too.

A few years ago I made her a birthday card called "10 Things I learned from Nannie". These were the things that made the list.

10 Things I've learned from Nannie

1. How to read and love books.
2. How to do crafts and cross-stitch
3. The love of Games and that grown-ups can play, too
4. The love of learning!
5. The love of Road trips.
6. How to raise children with patience
7. That we should know about our family’s past.
8. The love of photos.
9. That family always takes care of family.
10. How to Love unconditionally.

I'll miss you Nannie! I already do...





Sunday, October 5, 2014

The Northwest Cavegirls will be at the Bothell Country Village Harvest Festival

Happy Fall Folks!

It's Festival Season and the Cavegirls are jumping in head first! We have several upcoming Festivals, Bazaars and Craft Fairs on our schedule and we hope to see you at many of them. 

First on the agenda is the Bothell Country Village Harvest Festival.  Stroll the grounds decorated with corn stalks and pumpkins while you enjoy unique craft booths featuring one-of-a-kind items made by local artisans. Paint a pumpkin! Pumpkins and paints are included. Also, face painting, pony rides, train rides and much more!The Eclectic Cloggers will be performing on Saturday in addition to other live entertainment throughout the weekend!

Bothell Country Village Harvest Festival
October 11th & 12th
11:00am to 5:00pm

Harvest Festival at Country Village

We will bring a selection of yummy treats to the festival including:

Pumpkin Muffins!
World Famous Chocolate Chip Cookies ;)
Chocolate Cupcakes
Lemon Muffins
Coconut Cupcakes
Cinnamon Coffee Cake Muffins
Chocolate Chip Scones
and I might even get crazy and bring a few pecan pies!


Also, I'll have copies of all 4 Northwest Cavegirls Cookbooks:



Bake
Sides, Salads and Starters
Breakfast
Entrees

And copies of our children's books:


   

The Spy Who Quacked
The Case of the Pilfered Peanuts
The Duck Flew Over the Kookaburra's Nest
Spirit Visions

Drop by, sample some yummy treats, listen to some live music, and browse the acres of cool stuff. I hope to see you all there!

Saturday, September 27, 2014

The Northwest Cavegirls Now Have Four Cookbooks!

Well, folks, you ask and we deliver! We've gotten requests for a book compiling our recipes into print and eBooks format; so, we've put together several full color books of our favorite recipes. All books are now available on Amazon and at our local Festival and Craft Show appearances. Get yours today!
 Our first book, The Northwest Cavegirls Bake, features cookie, cupcake, muffin, scone and pie recipes, many of which have never before been published and are exclusive to this book. We've included many colorful photographs of these tasty treats as well.  The Northwest Cavegirls Bake, is available in Kindle or Print formats from Amazon. If you have Amazon Prime, you can borrow the eBook for free, otherwise it is available for only $2.99; the print version is only $11!
 
Our second book, Sides, Salads and Starters, is available in Kindle format from Amazon for only $2.99 or the print version can be purchased for only $11 ! Get your copy of this full color book containing more than 40 tasty vegetable, salad and appetizer recipes today! 
 
Our third book, Breakfast, is available in Kindle ebook format from Amazon for only $2.99 or the print versioncan be purchased for only $11 ! Get your copy of this full color book containing more than 40 tasty pancake, waffle, muffin, "cereal" and smoothie recipes today! 


Our fourth book, Entrees, is available in Kindle eBook format from Amazon for only $2.99 or the print version can be purchased for only $11 ! Get your copy of this full color book containing more than 40 tasty meat, "pasta", casserole and soup recipes today! 

As we continue to move forward, we hope to compile more books featuring topics such as "Freezer Meals", "Snacks" "Kid Friendly Paleo Foods", "Paleo Dinner Party Ideas", "Paleo Meal Plans" and many more. What kind of book would you like to see us put together? Is there a topic you're most interested in seeing published? Give us your ideas and we'll go to work making them a reality for you.

We're having such fun on this adventure and love sharing our journey and the things we've learned along the way. We hope you find it nearly as exciting as we do, and we hope you continue to let us know what we can do to make your Paleo lifestyle even more fulfilling.

Stay tuned to see what us crazy Cavegirls do next!

Monday, June 2, 2014

Northwest Cavegirls will be at the Punk Rock Flea Market!

Good Morning Folks! Long time no see. :)

Lots of work has been going on over here, and it's about time I updated you on some of it. First off, Northwest Cavegirls will be at the Punk Rock Flea Market on Saturday June 7th from noon - 10 pm at:

Underground Events Center
2407 1st Ave
Belltown Neighborhood
Seattle, Washington 98121


Admission is $1 and there will be live bands playing all day, plenty of food to eat, lots of interesting items to browse, and best of all The Northwest Cavegirls  will be bringing lots of yummy treats including:

World Famous Chocolate Chip Cookies ;)
Chocolate Cupcakes
Lemon Muffins
Coconut Cupcakes
Cinnamon Coffee Cake Muffins
Chocolate Chip Scones
Blueberry Scones

Also, I'll have copies of all 3 Northwest Cavegirls Cookbooks:


Bake
Sides, Salads and Starters
Breakfast

And copies of our children's books:


The Spy Who Quacked
The Case of the Pilfered Peanuts
The Duck Flew Over the Kookaburra's Nest
Spirit Visions

Drop by, sample some yummy treats, listen to some live music, and browse the acres of cool stuff. I hope to see you all there!


Friday, March 28, 2014

"Just" a Stay at Home Mom

The other day I was at a school board meeting sitting in the audience with other parents and friends as several parents stepped up to the podium to voice their opinions about the topic of the day, which happened to be the creation of an advanced science class at the middle school. As each of these parents stepped up to the mic they stated their name and often followed that with a title or pedigree or other qualification that they believed would give their statements  more weight or clout. Several had Doctor in front of their names and one was even a neuroscientist. I hadn't really planned to make a statement and had attended the meeting simply to add more faces to the 'pro' side of the argument, but as I listened to these parents I mentally rehearsed what I would say if I were to stand in front of the crowd and list off my title or pedigree or qualifications. What makes me an important person? What gives my opinions and statements weight? What benchmarks of success have I achieved? Do I really have any qualifications now, or have my years of being 'just' a mom robbed me of what once made me a powerful person with opinions that should be listened to and respected?

Once upon a time I had a very impressive resume. I'm an MIT graduate with a bachelors degree in Earth, Atmospheric and Planetary Science. For my thesis project I worked alongside the man who discovered the rings of Uranus. After college I worked as a Software Consultant in the Boston area then moved to Seattle to be a software developer for a small startup in downtown. The work I did in that startup led me to become a co-founder in another startup based around code I wrote. The entire company was based on code I wrote! I was a VP at age 23 in my own dot-com startup for goodness sake! Yes, I know, in the late '90s dot-com startups were a dime a dozen, but looking back on it, I still feel that was a pretty impressive feat. As often happened in those days, one thing led to another, and over the course of a few years the Venture Capitol vultures had gained control of the company. The work wasn't really any fun anymore. So when my first child was born pre-mature, I took that as a sign that my dot-com-founder days should be put behind me, and I jumped head first into the world of mommy-dom.

Let me just pause here and say that I LOVE being a stay at home mom. I love that I was there for all of the incredible moments that make up a child's first years. I saw every smile, every step, every accomplishment and I wouldn't give those up for anything. I was the primary person who got to shape my children, mold them into the tiny humans they are today. I am proud of my kids and how they are empathetic, caring, hard working and shockingly witty, and I'm ecstatic that I get to take credit for some of that. A great woman I know once said to me "I became a parent because I wanted to parent.". I'm with her 100% there. I wanted to be the person to raise my kids. I didn't want to turn them over to another person for most of the waking hours of the day. I selfishly didn't want to miss all of it. I wanted to be a part of the show and have the memories of it to reflect on when I'm old and have that inevitable empty nest.

On top of all of that, I'm lucky enough to have a husband and co-parent who is compensated enough for his work outside the home to pay all of our bills. In my eyes, he's made the greater sacrifice in agreeing to miss all of those precious childhood moments in exchange for money. I try to record as much of our kids' life as possible in photos and videos for him to relive, but if it were me in his shoes I'd spend a good deal of my workday in tears knowing I was missing the show. He is a stronger person than I in that regard.

Over the course of my kids' childhood, in addition to the household management, scheduling and maintenance, I've had various part time jobs that have allowed me to work from home on mommy time. I've done consulting work writing code, started a cottage food business baking paleo treats with a friend, and most recently writing cookbooks and children's books with my kids. These have all given me a sense of professional accomplishment, but none feel very resume worthy when compared to what I did pre-kids.

So, when someone asks me what I do, I'm never sure how to answer. When I was in the working world, I had an answer. If I was a full-time working mom now I'd answer with the title I held at my paying job, but saying I'm a stay at home mom doesn't seem to have the weight that the actual job of stay at home mom entails. I've seen various internet jokes where a mom is required to list her occupation and she writes something like 'CEO of child development and education, head chef, grounds keeper, chief sanitation engineer, head nurse and chauffeur'. Those are all true, but when you list out all of the duties, it sounds like your trying too hard to say how important your job really is. Saying you're CEO of a company or putting an MD or PhD after your name automatically gives you clout regardless of really how important your job is or how vital you are at your workplace.

If I ask my 'employees' if they could survive without me, the answer is no. For many years of my job as a SAHM I literally held the lives of my 'employees' in the palm of my hand. So, how vital was my role? In my heart I know that being a SAHM is just as important a job as any doctor's, lawyer's, or CEO's, but when someone asks 'What do you do?' it often doesn't feel that way. I sometimes feel like I have to follow up my answer that I'm a stay at home mom with what I used to do before kids, just to prove I am smart and capable and worthwhile. In my head I think if they know that I graduated from MIT and started my own dot-com and wrote code, then they'll treat me like the smart person I am rather than someone who wipes noses for a living. Sometimes if I'm talking to a person with an out of the home career they do seem to treat me differently if they know I used to have a 'real' job. Why is that? Is the fact that I care for my home and family full time proof that I can't do something more 'important'? No, no it's not.

If success is measured in happiness rather than titles and money, then I think I'm currently a great success at my job and life. I'm much happier now being CEO of my home, volunteering at my kids' school, being a co-leader of my daughter's girl scout troop and writing books with my kids than I ever was being VP at a software company. I know in my heart that someone else can write that code or lead that company just as well as I can, but no one else can raise my kids the way I do. So, this is where I'm needed right now, and this is where I plan to stay. I just need to work on a better job title; maybe I should say I'm retired from the office world and am now spending my days doing what I choose to do...who wouldn't want to have that job?

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